Tina Kakadelis
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Quote of the Day: 08.31.17 Six Unrequited Love Songs You Need to Hear This Morning

IMG_6032 What another emotional, moving, inspirational, heart-wrenching quote from yours truly. There's just something about unrequited love that packs a punch, you know?

I don't know what it says about me, my mental stability, and just who I am as a human, but unrequited love songs are my favorite love songs. Actual lovey-dovey love songs are great. They are. Can't Help Falling in Love is a masterpiece. And break-up songs hold a special place in my heart, too. They just can't compare to unrequited love songs.

(Those are the only three types of songs that exist in the world.)

Am I the only one who feels this way? Surely not. Listen, to truly appreciate love songs and break-up songs, I feel like you have to be IN IT. Like you've gotta be head over heels in love to truly appreciate a love song and you've gotta be lying on the floor in your apartment crying your eyes out in the darkness to really appreciate a break-up song. Sorry. I don't make the rules around here.

To appreciate an unrequited love song, you just have to be a human being over the age of thirteen. Everyone's had a crush that never made it past the crush stage. High school crushes are the most dramatic things on the planet and I love them. Crushes turn your emotions haywire and you do awful things like picture yourself getting married and living in a cute, white picket fenced house. Like??? How HORRIBLE.

For all the ups of crushes, there are a bunch of downs. In celebration of the mess of unrequited love, I'm going to share twelve of my favorite unrequited love songs. ("Why twelve? That's such an arbitrary number!" - your thoughts. My Response: Yeah, well life's pretty arbitrary and like that one weird crush we've all had, the heart wants what the heart wants. No matter how weird.) Six songs today, six songs in two days. So pull out your high school yearbook, get some Ben & Jerry's, and let's all cry and reminisce together.

Tina's Essential Unrequited Love Songs, Pt. I: The Modern Hits

  1. Teardrops on My Guitar by Taylor Swift - I don't care about your opinions on Taylor Swift because they're probably wrong, BUT you have to admit this girl has got some feelings. This is the quintessential unrequited love song of my generation. Like, I don't even need to continue because this one sums it up perfectly, but I will continue because you can never have enough unrequited love songs.
  2. Ruin by Shawn Mendes - This little boy is so charming and I hate that he's weaseled his way into my heart with his Canadian wiles. Kid's like four-years-old, but somebody has HURT HIM. I feel like I should thank them, though, because his stuff's goooood.
  3. From the Dining Table by Harry Styles - If you wanna get technical, I don't think this is exactly unrequited, but I don't think it's exactly a break-up song either. It's certainly not a love song. That we can all agree on. It's also sad as hell. Like what a depressing way to end an album, kid. Are you okay???
  4. From Afar by Vance Joy - This one is one hundred percent unrequited. Like the title gives it away. This song is desperate. That's not a knock against Vance Joy. I love desperate songs. I know that "desperate" has kind of a negative connotation, but I feel like it's time to reclaim it. Desperate means you have to do something because not doing it is unfathomable. Crushes reek of desperation.
  5. Not in That Way by Sam Smith - (Full disclosure: I've never listened to the Sam Smith version. Only Meghann Fahy's.) This song is just sad. A lot of unrequited love songs have a little bit of hope in them. The singer hopes it'll be different for them. In this Sam Smith song, though, he's totally aware that it's never going to happen. He just knows he's setting himself up for heartache, but he can't stop it. Like a freight train coming right at him.
  6. If I Had You by Joe Purdy - I've talked about Joe before on this blog, but that was about his political songs. He writes more than just political stuff because, like I said, since Joe is over the age of thirteen, boy's got some feelings. I feel like everyone wrote a terrible equivalent of this song in their high school notebooks. Do not make me feel weird for writing angsty, lovelorn stuff in the margins of my composition notebooks. This is my blog. You're supposed to be feeding my ego and assuaging my fears.